Thank You for Dumping Me is a book about a blindsided breakup turned personal growth opportunity, learning to love yourself after heartache, and the challenging transitions that help us get to know ourselves more deeply. It’s raw and real, with witty humor and a lot of heart! Readers have described Thank You for Dumping Me as a genre of its own—memoir-meets-novel—and a book they “couldn’t put down,” a “real page-turner.”

At the end of every chapter, you will find self-discovery activities as an invitation to reflect on how your own experiences shape your journey. So, unlike other memoirs, it’s not all about the author :) It’s a resource for readers!

Author Jessica Smith is on a mission to rebrand breakups from something to be feared, dreaded, and full of sorrow to opportunities for growth, self-discovery, and life course redirects.

Back Cover Text:
He looks straight into my eyes. “Jessica, when I picture my future, I don’t see you as part of it.”

Maybe you're curled up under the covers, trying to find the energy to face the day. Maybe you're spinning out, scrolling through text archives, looking for clues on when you started to grow apart. Wherever you are in the belly of the breakup beast, let's get the essentials out of the way…

You don’t suck.
You’re not stupid.
And no, you won't turn into a crazy single cat person for the rest of your life.

It’s breakups that suck, not you.

How the hell did I get here? I was so close to doing all the right things.

After this breakup asteroid hit my world out of nowhere, I’ve been challenged to look at everything in my life. I’m 29, living with a man for two years, dating for three, and WHAM. It hit.

When the rug gets pulled out from under you, it's about focusing on what really counts: not the faceplant, but what you do next.

What if this breakup is the biggest opportunity I’ve ever had? A life-course redirect? A chance to change the course of my path?

This book shares my story all the way from crying on the floor asking “why?” to finding opportunities for growth. Throughout my story, I offer you points of personal inquiry to support your journey from breakdown to breakthrough: the journey back to you.

And I could hold them both. I could hold it all.

Behind every closed door was me.

My heart is not broken. I have so much love to give, I will never run out.

I know it doesn't make sense now, but I promise it will.

Principles, Teachings, and Life Experiments to Connect with Your Inner Wisdom

A guided self-discovery journal designed to help you connect with your inner voice of wisdom through embodied reflection, presence, and life experiments.

What does it really take to know yourself?

You do this by interacting with the world and trying things on mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.

You notice how your lived experience feels in your body, what arises emotionally, and how your mind wants to make meaning of it.

You learn through life experiments that help you explore the deeper parts of yourself.

Each experiment becomes a doorway into greater awareness of who you truly are.

How do I use this journal?

Think of this journal as a friendly companion as you reflect, experiment, and notice what feels true in your body, your heart, and aligns with your inner voice of wisdom.

Alignment unfolds through self-discovery.

Use the self-discovery experiments in this journal to turn inward.
Make it fun!
Make it a ritual.

Get yourself a special drink, sit in your favorite park or coffee shop.

Grab a friend and explore together.

Self-discovery is not something to force; it's a gift you get to give yourself through presence and curiosity.

If it starts to feel forced, take a break and come back to it another time.

Willingness and presence are essential in helping your mind open, your body come online, and for your inner voice of wisdom to be heard.

What’s inside?

Inside, there are 30 life experiments to help you connect with your inner voice of wisdom.

Each experiment is paired with a principle or teaching, giving you context, language, and guidance before you try it on in your own life.

Life experiments include:

1. Let Go of Your Perfect Plan
2. What You Do vs Who You Are
3. Break Out of All-or-Nothing Thinking
4. Remind Yourself You’ve Done Hard Things
5. Define Your North Star
6. Spot the Signals from God & the Universe
7. Your Self-Discovery Journey
8. Embrace the Unknown
9. Navigate the In-Between
10. Co-Create with God & the Universe
11. I Am Worthy
12. Embodied / Somatic Self-Care
13. Find Your Safe Space
14. Building Self-Trust & Self-Esteem
15. Date Yourself
16. Define Your Boundaries
17. Manifest the Love You Truly Want
18. Uncover the Leader Within You
19. Flow Through Challenge
20. The External Validation Trap
21. Craft a Love Letter to Your Body
22. Mindset Reframe: Gift Yourself a Perspective Shift
23. Energetic Cleanse
24. Tune Into Your Feminine & Masculine Energies
25. Your Job Hunt Made Simple: Where to Start
26. Build a Personal Brand That Feels Like You
27. Mastering the Art of Job Interviewing
28. Figure Out Your Career Path in 10 Questions
29. Manage Up: Crafting 1:1 Meetings with Your Boss
30. Career Progression Cheat Codes

Are you a 20-something eager to find yourself in this crazy thing we call, The Real World? cue dramatic sound effect Until now, we’ve spent our entire lives in school. The great thing about school is that with each new year comes a new syllabus! But now what?

No one warned us that our twenties would feel like floating in outer space. Can someone please turn on the gravity? We need a little direction here!

Are you looking to find more clarity?
Do you want to get to know yourself better?
Are you eager to find your why?
Are you ready to own your life?

If so, take a BIG ole breath because you’ve come to the right place. You are not alone in your 20-something journey and this book was written just for you as you speed through life.

This book is quirky, fun, and full of advice. It’s not going to add MORE to your plate (we’ve got enough going on), and I’ve organized it into the five major areas of life:
1. SELF-LOVE
2. HEALTHY MIND
3. BODY ACCEPTANCE
4. RELATIONSHIPS
5. CAREER

These, I believe, are the areas in which we experience the most change during this roller coaster of a decade. Each micro chapter will give you the tools, tips, n’ tricks to navigate life’s ups and downs with ease, grace, and a whole lot of fun. If you’re ready to take the plunge, open to page one and let’s get started.